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... A person who is in the pipeline won't have time to be married. ... A newbie nuke can not do that. ...
im looking forward to enrolling in to the power program and really dont wish to give that up for marriage but also refuse to give up my marriage.
I can attest to this first hand. My first marriage was right smack in the middle of predeployment workups on a carrier. We got married, I moved her back to Cali with me, went underway the next week for 4 days, back for the weekend, underway for 6 weeks. I come back and she has drained down my bank account, bounced several checks including car insurance, among other things. She wasn't ready for all that responsibility of me being gone and I wasn't ready to let her be in charge of everything. Not to mention she went from a small town in West Texas to San Diego, so there was a bit of a culture shock there. Long story short, after financial nightmare, almost getting evicted because of a party she threw while I was underway, a "timeout" weekend, a completely wrecked vehicle with no insurance(check bounced), and a DNA test, I was officially divorced 2 years later(although she wanted the divorce, via email, 3 days into a 7 month deployment). Sea life and being a nuke is just way too hard to attempt to pull it off and build the foundation of a good marriage. Seen WAY TOO MANY students get married only to see them split before completing the pipeline. Best advice is like BeerCourt said, make it a LOOOOOOONNNNNNNNGGGGGG engagement. Get all your ducks in a row before you say "I Do" and you should be fine. But, you could always do like me and say "but we love each other and want to get married now so we can live together." and you can see how that turned out.
The only divorces I've seen are the nukecest ones I saw made here first.
NEVER ever let ANYONE try to give you reasons like BAH as a financial incentive to get married.BAH is for YOU not her and look upon it as a bonus. Never count on any income outside of what the Navy gives you for your service. What happens when your lifestyle gets used to that income and an On base house opens up? Or for some reason they cut BAH? It has happened.
Nukecest LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that is excellent! ...and Big Thunder will have to get involved....Mike
marssim<-- no chit, no counseling, 30 years and counting,... (not that there's anything wrong with that!!,...)
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