I was wondering who would break down and when. I was almost there.
You will hear that again.
You will hear how unfair it is that you get paid more money than a single sailor who does the same job as you.
You will hear that the single guys always take one for the team by pulling the worst duty days or taking a reactor shutdown so you can catch a few hours with your family.
And then, you will bring up the fact that you haven't seen your wife in months when you are asking for leave, liberty, or some other favor; and somebody will cut loose with the old standby that the navy did not issue you a wife. The idea that a married man might want to spend time with his wife will carry you so far and no farther. You will have to repay a lot of favors and still somebody is going to remind you that your choice to marry was your choice and not his problem.
Some day, you will be hoping to take leave to spend with your family, and some single guy in your division with like 88 days on the books will want leave at the same time. If you try so much as to HINT that you should be given leave instead of him because you are married, you will try to build a time machine to go back and erase the day you were born. The brothers won't be heartless. Everybody will try to do what is best for everybody, but do not under any circumstance try to use being married as a reason for any special consideration or you will find that your brothers aren't going to help you anymore.
Hope you get into a division full of married guys who understand or a division of all single guys who will take turns helping you out. But, the best thing to do is to prepare yourselves emotionally, financially, mentally, physically, and spiritually for long periods of separation with no compensation for your hardship and sacrifice.
Expect to work at your job 24/7/365. That way, when you get off the ship at 10 p.m. on Friday and have duty Sunday, you will appreciate Saturday.
You are going to miss her birthday, your birthday, your kids' birthdays (likely the actual birth of one or more children), your anniversary, Christmas, Thanksgiving, ... basically everything at least most of the time.
If she's not ready for that, do NOT enlist in the Navy.