Justin,
I'm sorry for the loss of your brother. This does not make all alcoholics a**holes, though I know that I fall into that category much of the time myself. Having hit the peak of my drinking when during the time that my stepson's leukemia progressed and soon after his death. This lasted a little over a year after his death until I had my epiphany and realized that my choices were drink & die or quit & live. My personal opinion is that it is an illness and if you care to discuss that I'll be more than happy to via PM.
Back to the subject at hand, if you have useful advice give it. If you're just interested in piling on and projecting your personal anger on someone looking for advice (Not singling you out Justin. I respect you far too much for that) then type it out in your word processing program, get it out of your system, and delete it. Though some of my experiences run close to talitore's I'd never assume that I can understand completely how he feels. None of us should either. You know what they say about assuming.
As to his last response meaning he's in denial, my take is that he's got enough going on without putting up with any extraneous sanctimonious pontification. I find it difficult to believe the ragging he's receiving given the reason that he spent the money. He could be in denial nukeman, or he just be tired with all that's on his plate.
I think the lad's been given sufficient advice, and tough love, to navigate his way to success. Now, if the discussion takes a turn towards some tangent, then let it be. You moderators have a nasty problem of trying to fence in a discussion when it's obvious that more than a couple of people are interested in the tangent.
I have no sympathy for alcoholics. For
decades now society has been educated on the side affects of too much alcohol. And people continue to ignore the warnings. Therefore, it's not a disease (or any other cop out), it's a choice. A choice to do what you're told is unwise.
No one needs to take it easy on this guy. That might have been the problem with his life until now: no one telling him like it is. No one telling him flat out he's in the wrong, that he's f.ing up his life. Maybe all of us being so blunt about this issue will wake him up. Just a thought.