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Starting mm a-school with Pregnant fiancé. Looking for advice
shehane:
I was in prototype when my second kid was born. I had already qualified and was waiting for my date to ship out to Charleston. I was actually held over for a couple of weeks and got a whole day off when she was born. I was lucky. The statement I heard the most was as GLW stated, "we didn't issue you a family, its not our responsibility".
nowhereman:
I see you are asking about finishing school and what happens. Have you considered another aspect of the equation? When your son/daughter comes out(they don't stay in there forever), you will need to be married or sign full custody over to your fiance, or your parents and you will need a family care plan. You will not be very deployable if you have custody of your child. []So you said fiance, so marriage was thought out, just maybe a little quicker than you thought.
You just need to have a legal marriage license for the state you are in, maybe the command will want you two to talk to the base chaplain, but you don't need permission to get married, unless you are marrying a foreign national.
Marriage will get you benefits you need for your growing family.
So, two consenting adults, doing adult 'things' do have actual adult consequences.
GLW:
--- Quote from: nowhereman on Jul 11, 2019, 06:57 ---
..... and you will need a family care plan.....
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is this a contemporary Navy requirement?!?!?!
--- Quote from: nowhereman on Jul 11, 2019, 06:57 ---
..........So, two consenting adults, doing adult 'things' do have actual adult consequences.
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so, as snarky as "was not issued in your sea bag" may sound to the snowflake generation "adult consequences" was the whole point of the snark,....
the military exists to break things and kill people,...
the military needs persons to accomplish that mission, not families,....
the military is not a family unit,....
families do not easily, and at the whim of some political motivation, sends their dearest and most loved to go kill or be killed,...
so, our most common military branch on these boards is the USN,...
and I found the USN to be most non-conducive to my family,....
some do,....
I was not lucky that way,...
but, not having a family in the Navy is an adolescent on steroids existence,....
eat here, sleep there, work where and when we tell you, take a vacation when you can and enjoy the hell out of it,...
having a family in the Navy is an adult on steroids existence,...
that's why the Navy does not issue families,...
families get in the way of killing other people,...
for the OP this is all too late except the caution about "adult consequences on steroids",...
and maybe excepting that the OP might get lucky,...
nowhereman:
I'll have to say if you are looking for answers that are current, just follow TVA's advice, just talk to your commands Master Chief. Cuz, all the information here is reflections of how it was back in the 1970' s or 1980's, maybe even from the 90's.
So, alas poor Yorick seems in order...
One common concept remains though. Academic ability paired with your willingness to put in the effort will determine your fate.
There are enough reddit posts, Y/Answers post and threads on here to supply plenty of insight.
Oh by the way, 2009/2010? was the time frame the military started formalizing a plan for single parents.
GLW:
--- Quote from: nowhereman on Jul 12, 2019, 09:36 ---
.....Oh by the way, 2009/2010? was the time frame the military started formalizing a plan for single parents.
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that's what I was looking for,...
AISI,...
albeit back in the day we were given a lot of snarky commentary and not a whole lot of guidance BUT!!!!,...
we were allowed to manage our lives as adults,....
to wit:
between nuke school and prototype I had about 28 days of leave, plus proceed time and travel time, so essentially I had about 40 days of no muster, no phone calls, no anything to do with the Navy at all,....
just show up in the right place, on the right day, at the right time,...
no cell phone check ins with nobody,...
no GPS,....
you know,...like an adult,....
I will caveat that there were individuals who crashed and burned without daily guidance,...
but for those of us able to handle our own lives; well nobody cared what your "plan" was as long as it did not deter from your duty,...
I'd be miffed in today's Navy,...
if I am old enough to make a baby, well then I'm old enough to tend to it's needs without anybody holding my hand,...
and I insist on being respected to that standard,...
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