Gamecock,
While I appreciate your comment, you OBVIOUSLY haven't paid attention to my situation. I don't need advice on whether or not to have babies on sea duty, my doctors have told me that if I ever want to have more children I need to have them now. So please keep comments like that to yourself. My situation is complicated, and I am not asking for your personal opinion about when I choose to have kids. I just need a straight forward answer about the likelihood of me being able to stay in the navy. If you don't have an answer to that question, then please keep your smart ass comments to yourself. Thanks.
Attitude is everything.
If you are going to come here for information, be prepared to get some advice along with it... it is just part of the price of admission. If you choose to dis the one true expert that we have on the subject of what the Navy is
really like (not someone's biased-by-personal-experience opinion) then you have lost your chance to gain any relevant information.
The bottom line is that life is full of options and therefore full of personal choices. I have never been in the Navy and I am not qualified to give Navy advice. I have, however, spend a good deal more time in the real world than a lot of people (yourself included) and I am qualified to tell you that you have a serious choice to make. I appreciate the sacrifices you have already made to serve your (and my) country, and I thank you for that. You now may have to decide whether or not it is in not just
your best interest but that of the Navy as well for you to continue that service. Your needs are in direct conflict with those of the Navy. You have made a pledge to put the Navy's interests before your own. It is your option and your responsibility to reevaluate that decision given your current situation. Nobody here can tell you what is best for you, but there are some people here on this site that can tell you what is best for the Navy... and Gamecock is one of them.
When your needs conflict with the Navy you are required to choose between them. Get all of the information you can and make a good choice. Accept the opinions of those that have more information than you do. Try to look at the situation from outside of your personal defensive system and lower your shields a bit to let the intelligent information in. You may have to choose between a family and the Navy -- that is just a fact of life. Make the choice that is best for you and that you can live with for the rest of your life.