... It's not like that anymore, so I don't ask the question out of the later ELT's, some of the specialness is no longer there...
My good sir, I must respectfully take issue with this statement. The specialness is still there (the community we inherited from you is still hand selected by ELT's), some just need to be taught. We are still masters of our domain, the only nukes entrusted to perform without automatic protective features.
I will admit to you, though, that the dashing personality and inherent air of excellence has turned more into a desirable trait than a requirement...
... and the second best spades player on my boat(s).
For us young whipper snappers, Pinochle defines glory.
To RBPD: I can't answer for life after the Navy, but I can offer you a small morsel for you as you wait. Every step of the game for the first three or four years is going to feel like the biggest thing you've ever encountered. Every step will pass. Keep focused on your immediate situation, but don't let it overcome your reality. Understand that there's something bigger beyond everything you are currently doing in the Navy, even (maybe: especially) if you're getting out. Take it as it comes, do your best, and don't get too caught up in it.
Make sure you have a good time with it, as well. Too many people forget to enjoy their Navy time (and I'm NOT a huge diggit saying this).