I'm a prior enlisted JO about to head from prototype to my first sub. I'm about 90% sure I'll be getting out after my first tour for various family reasons, but at that point I'll have about 10-11 years active duty in, and I was wondering if the Navy reserves is a legitimate alternative to getting out completely. The idea of retaining some military benefits, opportunities for supplementary income and still working towards a pension is tempting, but I'm not entirely sure what kind of jobs will be available and how demanding of an obligation it will be. I can imagine them drooling over an already nuke Engineer qualified LT and essentially activating me and sending me back to subs to augment the fleet anytime we get into a new engagement. That's obviously not what I'm looking for, otherwise I'd be better off staying in.
I'm just wondering if anyone here has experience in the reserves, or with reservists on subs, or perhaps any insight into other reserve jobs that might be available after I leave active duty. In a perfect world, I'd love to sit back and do my 2 weeks a year + one weekend a month, then every now and then activate myself for a 6-12 month overseas billet to Korea (or somewhere else of my choosing) to break up the monotony of working from home and taking care of the fam. Is that fantasy just a ruse to trick people like me into committing more time to the military serving at their whim and essentially defeating the purpose of getting out in the first place? Or is there enough flexibility and control over your reserve career to spend a lot more time with your family and pick and choose your active billets?