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How to Criticise with Kindness
« on: Nov 05, 2017, 10:25 »

This article is clearly counter culture for many on Nukeworker

How to Criticise with Kindness




Criticism online can easily perpetuate, until someone gets ‘shut down’.


http://upliftconnect.com/how-to-criticise-with-kindness/


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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #1 on: Nov 05, 2017, 02:10 »
You are paid to take it. Just be matter of fact and move on. No need for kindness.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #2 on: Nov 05, 2017, 04:23 »
You are paid to take it. Just be matter of fact and move on. No need for kindness.

I think that is what Weinstein told the young starlets.  ::) Abuse whether sexual or bullying is not expected nor is it professional, but then I don't expect you to get that.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #3 on: Nov 05, 2017, 05:25 »
Last I knew Weinstein doesnt have an SRO License. Not a very intelligent comparison.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #4 on: Nov 05, 2017, 05:28 »
Last I knew Weinstein doesnt have an SRO License. Not a very intelligent comparison.

It's an excellent comparison for those capable of seeing it. Just because you think an abusive action is acceptable does not make it so.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #5 on: Nov 05, 2017, 07:48 »
You are paid to take it. Just be matter of fact and move on. No need for kindness.

At the places I've worked, criticism delivered in the way this thread refers to - that is to say, in a harassing or unnecessarily aggressive manner - is in violation of company HR policies, and at those workplaces it's considered a duty to report harassment and toxic workplace behaviors if possible. So, you might say that you are actually paid not to put up with it.
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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #6 on: Nov 05, 2017, 10:28 »
You forget... he's an EGO... uh, I mean SRO. Nevermind, same thing.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #7 on: Nov 06, 2017, 04:46 »
Okay . . . I'm starting to feel triggered  [sos]  (searching for my safe place)

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #8 on: Nov 07, 2017, 08:06 »
Turning 60 in 2 weeks
getting ready to retire
"get off my lawn" is one of my favorite movie quotes
this is as nice as I will ever be again.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #9 on: Nov 07, 2017, 04:36 »
this thread started off wit a sub-lesson from the first day morning segment of a 36 our leadership certificate class.
dew knot knead two reed between the lines too sea whose bin thru that class.
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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #10 on: Nov 08, 2017, 11:50 »
Been through that class - always preferred "effectively" to "with kindness"

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #11 on: Nov 08, 2017, 08:15 »
Been through that class - always preferred "effectively" to "with kindness"
effectively/with kindness
vinegar/honey
witch equals efficient two the highest degree?
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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #12 on: Nov 08, 2017, 10:07 »
Been through that class - always preferred "effectively" to "with kindness"

I prefer professional to either.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #13 on: Nov 09, 2017, 05:52 »
I prefer professional to either.

I saw that movie,...

"The Professional",...

yeah, not a whole lot of kindness went with the criticism in that rendition of professional,...


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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #14 on: Nov 09, 2017, 08:29 »
While there are instances where that may be the most "effective" way, it's generally frowned on at work.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #15 on: Nov 10, 2017, 11:37 »
Happy Birthday HouseDad. I guess that is as nice as I can be today. I promise to stay off your lawn.

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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #16 on: Nov 10, 2017, 09:55 »
You are paid to take it. Just be matter of fact and move on. No need for kindness.
sew, guessing that 'coaching' is a waist of thyme.
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Re: How to Criticise with Kindness
« Reply #17 on: Nov 10, 2017, 10:58 »
fingered that this thread wood bee best four listing a best apology methodology
http://www.cnn.com/2017/11/10/health/how-to-apologize-say-sorry/index.html
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