stephpatton,
I know this is quite off topic, but if there is anything I have learned from reading and writing on this forum, it's this: take the time to check your spelling and grammar before hitting the "post" button. If you don't, you're very likely to receive quite the reaming from these folks. They're all good people, with an almost endless amount of experience and knowledge (As an aside, I'd be curious to know how much collective nuclear Navy experience exists on this forum...), and you would do well to heed any advice they can give you. It's kind of the "been there, done that" point of view. And though things may change quickly in the Navy, there's always someone on here that is up to date. With that said...
On topic: I leave for basic training on July 10. From what research I have done, and what has been reported to me from the recruiters (both nuclear and recruiting chief) is that you will go straight from Great Lakes to Charleston. During the in-processing there, all of a sudden they will "discover" that you are married and have a family and you will be given leave to go move them down. It is your responsibility to pay your way back home, but the Navy will pay for the move of your family and belongings whether you choose Navy movers or a DITY move. How long you have to move will depend on how far away you live, because it is based on travel time. Once you report back to Charleston with your family, you will be assigned your housing (to the best of my knowledge you have no choice but to live in on-base housing when you first arrive) and your life as a NUB will truly begin. So, including your time at Great Lakes, your total time away from your family will be roughly 9-10 weeks. I hope that answers your question.
Rex.